Make everything (good!) count. Make sure you at least have one day together. Not for running errands or cleaning, etc. Just time together. My DH works 6am to 2pm m-f, I work 12pm to 9pm m-f and on Sat/Sun I work 4-12 & 12-7. While that doesn't sound too rough, he is going to bed when I get home - If I'm home at 9pm!! Usually I do the grocery shopping or errands while the stores are still open at night. Then I come home do the laundry and clean while he is sleeping. We try to make enough time to spend quality time. Saturday I got up extra early and we went apple picking. We were out early enough that there were not too many people, we had a lovely walk holding hands and talking. The apples were a bonus.
Make sure to have enough communication, by phone or note. Let the little things go as far as discussion time. When I have the time to talk to my husband I don't mention the wet towel left on the bathroom floor or that he forgot (again!) to take out the trash. I talk with him about us.
When I made his lunch the other day, I used a ghost cookie cutter and made ghost sandwiches. One guy at work said to him "I wish my wife would do stuff like that". He took teases from other guys but he didn't care. He knew I was thinking of him and wanted to make him smile and think of me!
Since you are concerned about this issue enough to post on it, I am sure you will find a way. Don't smother - just love!
Best of luck!
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