| Nagymom
We have a very similiar situation with my mom and her other grandkids. My mother lived right down the highway...like 10 minutes from her granddaughters...my brother's two children and she refused to see them. She has seen them probably 4 times in their lives. My mother talks to me only and not my brother or sister, so she avoids the children. I expect that I will be next real soon!!! She stopped talking to my brother because she believed that he only showed up to ask for money and didn't care about her-(valid feelings because he is very selfish and only wants to use people)-but the kids are innocent. My sister though...she stopped talking to her because she didn't call her back in the time frame she felt she should-(just a few months ago)-so now, she won't speak or talk to my sister's kids. She only saw them twice anyway, because my sister moved to Hawaii when her daughter was 2 months old and her son was born in Hawaii. My sister came to visit in Detroit-(husbands family funeral)-and my mother only stayed about a half hour in seeing her granddaughter, even trying to come up with excuses why she needed to leave.
Then when my sister's husband had a transistion time from Hawaii to Colorado, in which she stayed 2 months in Detroit, my mother saw her once at my sister's sons birthday. Her other grandkids...my brother's kids were there and she barely spoke to them or to my sister's daughter. She doted over the boy, the only boy of the family. Even now, she'll ask me about him but won't ask about the girl.
Also, she loves my dd and does everything for her, even spending 14 hrs via Greyhound to come and see her. She's even sends her money, like she's sending her $25 tomorrow for the Cheerleading lessons I was going to pay for, but because dd mentioned it to Gran-(my mom)-she's going to.
It's very sad that family acts like this. It's hard on the kids, especially when my daughter is talking about how she talked to Gran and my niece says, "I talked to MY GRAN too". She calls her My Gran! But, I know that she has not spoken to my mother and won't speak to her. It hurts alot to see the division in the family and not be able to do anything about it, esp. since my mom would stop talking to me too if I even mentioned it-(seriously!). So, for now, I walk on needles when dealing with my mom who lives in Detroit and just waiting for the ball to drop when she stops dealing with me too, and my dd!!!
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