Dream Wedding on a Budget
by Nily Glaser
Many couples are shocked to learn that today, the average
wedding costs over $20,000. But, it does not need to cost
quite that much. You can have your dream wedding for a fraction of the
price if you use good organizational skills, ingenuity,
flexibility, and enlist the help of friends and family.
Many componenets go into planning a wedding day.
Many details need to be completed and intertwined to create
not only a wedding but a dream wedding as the bride and groom
pictured it.
Today, about 70% of the marrying couples pay for their own weddings
so, setting a realistic wedding budget and sticking to it is a must
if you are to keep the cost of your wedding within your budget.
There are many options to choose from and many ways to save. Now, get creative and examine your options.
SEARCH THE INTERNET
Search the Internet thoroughly and you can save time and money.
The World Wide Web Provides you with information and resources
for making purchases on-line. Many wedding web sites provide links
to wedding related businesses that could be your answer to quality
products and services.
SET YOUR PRIORITIES AND YOUR BUDGET
As you plan your wedding create three categories:
- Must have
- Optional
- Nice to have
Base your decisions on availability, on your budget and on your
ingenuity. Once you decide what your priorities are, use your ingenuity and
creativity.
Involve yourselves, your friends and your families in at least some
of the preparations. Loved ones will appreciate the opportunity to
contribute to your happy day, have fun and save you money.
Choose vendors and service providers who can assure that your
priorities will be met and that yours will be the wedding you
dreamed of.
When you negotiate with vendors and service providers, be firm.
Stick to what you decided you want and to what you budgeted for.
Do not let them talk you into anything you neither budgeted for, nor
want.
But by the same token, be flexible enough to spend more or
substitute, if you cannot find exactly what you considered a
priority within your budget.
Be sure you are familiar with all changes, return and / or
cancellation policies before you sign any contract or finalize any
arrangement.
Having to buy something twice, or having to pay additional fees for
changes can and does add up.
Always keep documentation of every contract and receipt in a
safe place and pay special attention to deadlines for returning
items.
Whether you are looking for a service provider, wedding accessories
or wedding supplies, always comparison shop.
Interview at lease 3 service providers before you select the one who
will accommodate you best.
Look for discount malls on and off the Internet. Shop for bargains
and clearance sales. If you are careful, you can save a lot of
money.
Do not get confused between inexpensive and cheap.
If you purchase at a discount mall, you'll generally receive the
same merchandise you would at a more expensive shop and be able
to return or exchange items. However, when shopping for reduced
priced and clearance items, check to make sure that they are not of
inferior quality since you'll most probably not be able to return or
exchange them.
WEDDING CONSULTANTS AND WEDDING PROFESSIONALS CAN SAVE YOU MONEY
Here too, base your decision on your budget.
If your budget permits, engage a wedding consultant to help you
with tasks as small as locating trusted vendors and service
providers, to tasks as large as organizing your entire wedding event
from A-Z.
Wedding consultants work with local vendors and service providers,
who like the referrals generated by them. As a fair trade, they
often have special arrangements for reduced rates which when added
up will save you money. Yet, the least you engage outsiders and the
more you enlist friends and family and do yourself, the more money
you save.
WEDDING STATIONERY
You'll probably want to send engagement announcements, save the day,
invitations etc...
If you are willing to depart from the traditional printed
invitations you can save not only money but time and anxiety.
Create your own wedding stationery and invitation right on your
computer and print it on blanks. You can purchase all your wedding
stationery needs including papers used by professional printers,
and make your own wedding invitations and stationery.
If you have a good printer, your stationery and invitation will look
just as professional as the expensive ones ordered from printers.
WEDDING ACCESSORIES FOR CEREMONY AND RECEPTION
Following are the basic wedding accesories: ring pillow, champagne
flutes, cake serving set, guest book, pen, garter, a unity candle
set. Additional accessories most brides add are a flower girl
basket, a bridal purse, a keepsake caketop and the photo album.
As most brides opt for coordinating accessories, complete
collections are available. You can purchase your collections in an
online discount mall and save anywhere from 10 to 25 percent, or you
can have others purchase your desired accessories as gifts.
Your friends and family will most probably celebrate your engagement
and upcoming wedding with engagement parties and bridal showers and
of course gift giving holidays. Most guests need some guidance
regarding appropriate gifts but few consider items for the wedding.
This is why bridal registries are so helpful. So if you let the
hosts of your wedding celebrations know what you want, not only will
they be able to coordinate it but they will assure the guests that
their gifts are wanted and will be highly appreciated. A win win.
CEREMONY SITE
The only decorations expected in the ceremony site or sanctuary,
are 2 standing flower bouquets. Use flowers that are plentiful and
inexpensive. Today, many supermarkets, even Costco sell wonderful
fresh and silk flowers and bouquets at a very reasonable price.
You may wish to add pew bows. If you make your own you'll
save a lot of money. Making the bows is easy and fun and all
you need is wide ribbon, scissors and a little time.
You can make your ceremony special by lighting a unity candle
and if you have children, involving them in the ceremony.
You can buy unity candles in stores, you can order custom
designed candles from artisans who will create personalized
candles just for you, or you can create your own.
ATTIRE
Wedding Gown
Wedding gowns are very expensive but there are many options
you may exercise to get what you want and save money.
Do you have a friend or a family member who sews?
Engage them and in return give them the honor of serving as
an attendant at your wedding party. If you shop for a gown,
before you decide to have it custom made, go to department
stores and check their sale corner.
Occasionally, Department stores have wedding gowns on
clearance and you can buy a gown at a fraction of its original
price and save a "ton" of money. Another option is buying a
sample gown which was used for a fashion show or a display.
If you still can not find just that special gown, and you need to
purchase one, consider a simple gown off the rack. Or comb
the wedding ads and auction sites on and off the web.
You'll probably be able to buy a gown that was used only once
or even a brand new one for "peanuts".
To save even more, you may considered a white "prom" or a bridesmaid
dress.
Bridesmaids dresses
Today it is customary for the bridesmaids to purchase their own
dresses shoes and accessories. Since they intend to gift their maid
of honor and bridesmaids, most brides provide the bridemaids with
custom jewelry that coordinate well with their gowns or dresses.
The jewelry does not have to be expensive but does need to be of
good quality and look good.
Groom and groomsmen
Depending on your wedding motif, the groom and groomsmen
can wear a dark suit and white shirt they probably own.
Gift them with matching ties for uniformity. If your wedding calls
for tuxedos, have the men in the wedding party rent the tuxedos,
shoes and accessories. Here too it is customary for the groomsmen
to pay for the rental of their attire. Many rental places will
furnish the groom's attire for free if all the men from the wedding
party rent at the same time as one package. A saving for you.
FLOWERS
You can save money on your flower arrangements if you are willing
to be 'original' and creative. If any of your guests create flower
arrangements even as a hobby, ask them to do the flower
arrangements.
If you can not find a capable guest, you'll need to purchase the
bridal bouquet and the flowers for the altar at a reputable florist.
But, consider giving the bridesmaids mixed seasonal flowers. They
are available in supermarkets and Even at Costco at a fraction of
the price charged by a florist.
Ask your bridesmaids to insert their bouquets in vases to serve as
centerpieces for the reception tables. Your bridesmaids will oblige
with pleasure knowing that after the reception they will take home
not only their flowers but the vases as well. The flowers will not
keep forever, but the vases will become keepsake mementos of your
wedding and you'll save money.
WEDDING RECEPTION SITE
The Meal
The reception is the most expensive part of your wedding.
But, you can plan it within your budget and have a memorable event.
You must be very particular when choosing the site. It must be
appropriate and fit in with your reception plan. It does not have to
be a traditional hall.
How about having your wedding in a historical home, a park,
a museum, fairgrounds, public gardens, on the beach, etc...
You also need to know if it supplies you with all your furniture
and dining needs. If not, you must calculate rental fees.
When choosing a wedding site, choose slow period and
either a Friday evening or a Sunday afternoon and you'll be
able to negotiate the best deals.
If you invite some good cooks to your wedding, you may ask
them to prepare their favorite recipes for your wedding reception.
Also, if you invite some good bakers, ask if they could prepare
sweets and desserts or maybe even your wedding cake.
You'll save money and they will feel honored for being asked.
In fact they'll be delighted to serve too.
If you have your reception catered, you must consider the
number of guests, the time of day and the manner in which
food will be served.
- Will it be refreshments only?
- dessert only?
- light snack?
- a sit-down?
- a buffet?
- will you serve alcohol?
- If bar tenders will serve alcohol will it be an open bar?
- will you or the guests pay for the drinks?
There is an enormous difference in price between a light brunch,
for example, and a five course sit-down catered dinner.
Following are some suggestions you may check out to fit your budget.
Have a brunch or an early lunch and you need to serve fruit and
vegetables, salads, eggs, cheeses, pastries, coffee, tea and cold
drinks buffet style.
Have a late lunch and you'll need to add some
meats and poultry. You may still serve it buffet style, or as a sit-
down meal.
A sit-down dinner is by far your most expensive choice. Yet, if your
slices or wedges of your wedding cake will be served, skip any
other dessert.
You can save a bundle and your guests will never notice.
Music
When it comes to music, you'll need to decide what fits in with your
personalities when choosing whether to use instrumental music, a
band or a disc jockey.
Check out the local colleges and universities and find out if they
have a music department. If so, inquire if there are students in the
music program who will be able to perform at your wedding.
We thank Meredith from Phoenix, AZ who sent us the following
information about how she is saving money on wedding music while
helping the local high school band in their fund raising efforts.
She writes:
"I am getting married and paying for it myself. So, I have had to
cut costs like you wouldn't imagine! One thing that was very
important to me, and my fiancée is music.
We both were in band and choir in high school and love music to this
day.
Unfortunately, having a string quartet was entirely too expensive
and forget the live band or even a dj at our reception, so i had an
idea. I was in jazz band in high school and we were very good,
winning all kinds of awards and stuff. High school bands are always
looking for fundraisers and so we approached my old high school jazz
band about playing at our reception.
We worked out a great deal for paying them but significantly lower
than getting a professional band. AND, the school usually has
uniforms already - just request that as part of the package. Thank
you for you website it has been very helpful.
Meredith from Phoenix, AZ"
But, don't overlook your guests. If you invited singers, let them
sing.
Have them sing a solo or as a group during the ceremony And / or at
the reception.
PHOTOGRAPHY AND VIDEOGRAPHY
When it comes to photographers and videographers, choose your
professionals very carefully. Your wedding day will come and go and
the photos and video will serve as mementos and memories of your big
day. Viewing them you shall re-live it and be able to share it with
your kids and theirs building a family history.
Before hiring a photographer or a videographer compare prices and
references.
Choose the very best that are within your budget. Even if you need
to choose a smaller package, here is where you want the very best.
Go for it.
Just like personalized wedding gifts and accessories, photos and
videos will become treasured keepsakes to share with and hand down
your children.
However, consider placing disposable cameras on each table at your
reception so your guest will take pictures too. These pictures will
usually be real and spontaneous and reflect your wedding as seen by
your guests.
MISC
Ask friends to serve as your drivers and save. Instead of a limo,
rent a luxury car and have a friend drive.
Ask friends to help decorate the reception room, be the disc jockey,
help with the seating, etc...
Good friends and family will be honored and you'll save money and
know that your wedding needs were fulfilled with love and care.
"A-wedding Day" offers you a series of wedding planning articles
that concentrate on how to choose and work with wedding vendors,
professionals and service providers, a wedding resource directory,
a wedding planning checklist and a discount bridal mall where you
save on wedding gifts and accessories.
Below are a few of their resources:
How to choose a florist
How to choose a Wedding Site
Instructions for printing your own wedding invitations and stationery.
Series of wedding planning articles devoted
to choosing and working with wedding vendors, professionals and
service providers provided here.
How to choose wedding musicians and
entertainment
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About the Author
Copyrights © 2004 All Rights Reserved Nily Glaser
Nily Glaser is the founder of
A-wedding Day
A very popular Wedding Resource and Information Center, and a
discount shopping mall for wedding gifts, supplies and bridal
accessories.
She is also the publisher of the free A-wedding Day newsletter.
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